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Raja Begum
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(12/1/01 3:22 am)
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The Million Dollar Question
I believe SRF's emphasis on hard-core monastic thinking messed a lot of us up. Only a tiny percent of SRF members will ever be monastics.

So why do we have a monastic guru leading a progressive country of basically householders? Where's the logic in that? How does that provide us with a role model we can relate to?

Kevin
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(12/14/01 8:15 am)
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Re: The Million Dollar Question
Again:I posted this on another thread and somehow it got lost in the maze so...here it is again:

Years ago at the time of Daya Mata election as president a decision was made (apparently according to Yogananda's wish) that future president(s) must be monastics.
It was thought that someone who dedicates her/his life totally to God would be a better garantee.
Unfortunately I think it was a big mistake, not much that the president must be a monastic but, that trend totally 'ejected' the householder element from giving any real imput to the direction of the organization.
Lahiri Mahasaya, a householder himself, brought Kriya Yoga to the world to be used by householders and monks alike. Considering the aim of making it available to the masses we can say it was mainly intended for householders.

It is clear that many of the mistakes made by SRF management are due to the lack of such input. The isolated, anacronistic, obsolete 'modum operandi' of SRF is in gran part to be attributed to that trend.
Some effects can be seen at how SRF handled the 30 year master plan for M.W. development.

I think the householders and monastics must return to collaborate and serve Master's work together.
The syndrome of the isolated Guru (SRF) on the top of the Mountain (Mount Washington) must end.
It lends an aura of untenable infallibility to the SRF directors, and doesn't allow SRF to be effective in trying to reach the world, whose inhabitants looks very alien to the monks, with Yogananda's teachings (or how to go about to build a temple for Yogananda's body at Mount Washington, for example).

premdas
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(12/14/01 1:30 pm)
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Re: The Million Dollar Question
Decentralization of the organizations and teachings, making people more important than things and emphasizing the role of the "householder" is why the other Yogananda organization is growing and why SRF is not. In this case, An--da is more relevant to the average "joe/josephine" 's world and needs. Master did not come to be an avatar of a monastery! Master is for the world.

sevaki
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(12/17/01 12:50 pm)
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Re: The Million Dollar Question
Brother A. visited the Center I attend this weekend, and one of the satsanga questions was asking written by a devotee who had once felt drawn to the monastic path, but didn't join and now, years laters, somewhat regrets the decision not to join, feeling that he or she "missed out". I was really saddened by Brother A's response. Here is a devotee who really loves Master and wants to do the right thing, and wants to be reassured that, Yes, You can find God, Be in tune with the Guru, and live a spiritual life outside of the ashram. Brother A. basically said, "Well, we are all where God and Guru want us to be." As though only SOME SPECIAL, super-advanced souls are permitted in the Emerald City. I wished he would have said, Hey, you know, Master gave Kriya to everyone who wanted God, and that's all you need. You don't need a robe and a cool name, and feet twelve inches off the ground. I wished he would have said something about Lahiri Mahasaya, who had a regular job, wife, kids, AND was the Polestar of Kriya. Instead the monk just reaffirmed what is already feared in the hearts of many devotees - that only Guruji's chosen few are great enough to get into the ashram where the "real" spiritual life can be found. Hello? Last time I checked, weren't WE ALL the "chosen few"? I mean, like EVERYONE - we are ALL Divine Mothers children, and guess what? God doensn't pick favorites. It's not like picking teams for softball in the third grade.

premdas
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(12/17/01 1:07 pm)
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Blessings to Sevaki
Thank you, Sevaki, for your relevant & current posting. Blessings to you for your service to Master's chelas. You seem like an inspiration whereever god puts you. As to your closing point, Master said, (paraphrased) "there are no captains in heaven. they are all the same...."

sackcloth
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(12/17/01 2:04 pm)
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To sevaki
Wow, I feel you overreacted and missed the point by about a hundred miles. I understand where you are coming from, and there's an awful lot of mistrust on the part of the participants of this board of the monastics, some of it with reason, I agree. But I think one shouldn't read more into a situation than what's there. I feel what Bro A. (whoever that is) replied to that person is essentially what you are saying too, only he used his own language which you misinterpreted. To me he is saying "God put you where you can best find him." For some that is the ashram, for most that is out in the world. I did not sense at all that he meant to say that the ashram is only for the chosen best and everyone else is inferior.

As I said in another thread, I once also harbored the desire to enter SRF's monastic order. I later realized that was not the path for me. However, in all my chats with SRF monks and nuns I never once got the feeling that the ashram was for the chosen few. If anything, they always did their best to discourage that kind of thinking, to let me and anyone else know that the whole message of PY and SRF's teachings is that ANYONE can find God WHEREVER HE/SHE HAPPENS TO BE in this world, wherever God happens to have put him/her, and that NO ONE NEEDS TO RUN AWAY TO AN ASHRAM TO FIND GOD. That is the message I've always got from everyone at SRF.

Raja Begum
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(12/18/01 12:09 am)
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To Sevaki
Sevaki, you're a compassionate person. My hunch is you're what Kiersey calls the "Idealist." Friendly, abstract, intuitive, and imaginative --- Idealists tend to chose occupations in human services. They are concerned with how people feel about themselves.

Without knowing the emotional setting, Brother A's quote appears, on face value, to mean exaclty what Sackcloth says it does. What doesn't come across in your posting was the tone in which he said it. Did you detect any condescension or arrogance when he spoke? It would be helpful for the rest of us if you clarify this because, if he was out of line, we need to open up further discussion on the unexpressed judgmentalism that is intimated in SRF communication.

Most probably, there was subjective discord between your temperaments. Let's suppose you are an intuitive, friendly Idealist while Brother A. is an emotionally stingy Rational. I have a lot of experience interacting with Rationals. They don't mean to hurt feelings, but they do all the time because they have a style of communication in which they report hard, cold facts without taking any responsiblity for the effect their words might have on others. An idealist with a sensitive psyche would pick up on the lack of empathic communication in the Rational's demeanor and translate that into feelings of being judged. Rationals, on the other hand, regard Idealists as being thin-skinned and soaked in too much feeling. Each one doesn't understand the other's nature. How can one become empathic except by being centralized in feeling? And how does one develop an incisive logic except by being chiseled and salted in objective reason?

I can think of two Brother A's who, despite their sharp powers of cognition, are absolute flops when it comes to connecting with their fellow humankind in an empathic way. Brother Anandamoy, for example, is a "Rational." I'm not trying to implicate him in this particular event, but I think we all know him well enough to use him in our discussion on Rationals. Rationals are the supreme logicians. They have a natural attraction for tough, clean worlds. They gravitate towards the fields of mathematics, science, law, architecture, strategic operations, engineering, inventing and wordsmithing. Einstein was an supreme example of an enlightened Rational who experienced the universe aesthetically through the pursuit of theoretical mathematics and physics. Echoing this, who but our very own resident Rational, Brother Anandamoy would pitch Kriya with these words: "It works like mathematics. It cannot fail." Another Rational is Thomas Jefferson who was a superb structuralist of revolutionary thought. Then there are the tough as nails type such as objectivist writer-philosopher Ayn Rand, SRF's Tara Mata, and Napoleon Bonaparte. On the darker side of the heart there is Hitler and possibly Lenin. The inhuman world of Oceania in Orwell's dystopic novel "1984" was a product of Rationals wedded to the evil side of power.

You seem to be the type who is too bright to hang on a single person's words. That leads me to wonder if your reaction to Bro. A stirred up some nascent suspicion you've had about the organization being elitist and monastic-centric. II would like to know your thoughts in regards.

In an offhand way, Mr. Sackcloth (or Mrs.?) verifies the presence of an elitist monastic attitude floating in the SRF culture. In response to you, he/she says what all lay-disciples want to hear and hope to be true, that....

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"ANYONE can find God WHEREVER HE/SHE HAPPENS TO BE in this world, wherever God happens to have put him/her, and that NO ONE NEEDS TO RUN AWAY TO AN ASHRAM TO FIND GOD."


Whether this is wishful thinking or conviction I cannot tell. In several heated moments on another thread, this same individual writes the following....

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"The times I've been over to the monastery for confession or to talk with the priests for various things it's always been the same thing. Discipline, discipline, discipline. No ifs, ands, or buts about anything. It's stricter than the military. It should have a sign outside that reads "No Egos allowed", for if you have one, it will surely be crushed! No excuses or justifications allowed."

"I'm sure there's room for improvement in SRF's ashrams, just like everywhere else in the organization as a whole. But monasticism has always been about anihilating the ego, and one should harbor no illusions about it. Those seeking recognition or comfort would probably be better off out in the world, where opportunities abound to make a comfortable living and get plenty of praise, fame, name, etc. Just MHO. "


"Those who want the things of this world, the ENTITLEMENTS that the psychobble authors have managed to convince us are our birthright, and all the perks of secular life like "empowerments" and recognition and others making them feel good are better off in the secular world, where there are tons of opportunities to cater to the ego. I just think that monasticism has of necessity to run under a whole different set of rules than those of the secular world. Otherwise what's the point of renouncing the world and going to the ashram if you expect the same rights and entitlements and comforts as in the material world?"



There's an obvious Catholic overtone chiming here, yet it's fairly close in frequency to what many hard core SRF-ers actually feel (including and especially Mrinalini Mata): "If you have what it takes to be part of the winning team, go monastic. If you want a comfortable, easy life of perks and entitlements, remain a householder."

Is this necessary in SRF? Does it represent the value system of a "Modern Streamlined Yogi"? Or is it merely the expression of partiality to monastic samskaras cultivated in previous lives?


Raja Begum
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(12/18/01 12:50 am)
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Links
Click on the following links for more information on Temperaments....

The Idealist

The Rational

Kiersey Temperament Website

sevaki
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(12/18/01 11:03 am)
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Re: To Sack and Raja
Well, herein lies a problem -
First of all, you are both right, it's not absolutly fair to take a comment out of context, mine, or Brother ATMANANDA's (for the unofficial record). I was just trying to get to core of what lots of devotees feel - That is, if they WERE in the ashram, somehow, spiritually, they'd be batting 100, while here "in the world," they question themselves, nagged by a feeling that if they were in the ashram, they'd really be doing the right thing by Master. OK, no one pick that statement apart. I want to talk to the butterflies out there, not the lepidoptomists who are going to pick apart the butterfly wings.
: )
Sack, give me a break. Get in the holiday spirit. In fact, let's all give EVERYONE a break. In the subway today, I tried to give everyone annoying me a break : )
And here's a key point - DEVOTEES never give themselves a break. Brother Devananda is stellar at talking about this. We are mostly all so hard on ourselves, always trying to practice the prescence, make time for meditation & EE's, follow the yamas and niyamas, feel devotion, serve, eat good foods, and smile, smile, smile. And don't forget reading the Gita, Whew. So it seems like there's always More we "should" be doing. Many feel like no matter how much effort they put into their sadhana etc, the bar is always raised just a little bit higher. Well, thus is the life of a chela, but it's important to cut yourself some slack and not feel guilty about it. That' why, according to Brother D., so many devotees feel low-self esteem and get depressed. We just never feel that we are as perfect as we are called to be. But I digress...
And Raja, thank you for you many valuable insights. Are you a psychologist? I probably am an Idealist. I'm also an Aquarious with my moon in Leo.

Yes, I see lots of parrallels between SRF and the Catholic church. We have centralized power, a group of "cardinals" who advise the "pope", a "vatican", priveledged "bishops", ranks of overworked, underpayed monks and nuns, and does SRF sell indulgences? Well, I've never had an audience with Daya Ma, but Oprah has. Basically, we have lots of patriarchal thinking in SRF, meaning centralized. Interesting that SRF is run mostly by the nuns, yet classic feminist organization is absent. By which I mean, a democratic, de-centralized, circular organizational modality.
I was raised as a Catholic, and I was once outraged that my parish was talking out all of the pews to have them sanded and revarnished - an expensive and basically unnecessary project. I told the monsignor what I thought ( I had just returned from Haiti and was in a "how many children could eat and go to school for X amount of money" mode). He gave me a "be a good girl" (I was in high school) smile and actually patted me on the head and dimissed me. Has anyone in SRF had basically the same thing happen to them? Don't all call out at once, now.

I think this board offers a healthy environment for discussion, but I want to offer this suggestion:
Can we try to read people's postings as their personal opinion, and see beyond writing style and use our hearts when reading and responding? I see a slight tendancy to pounce when someone it trying to express themselves (and read into their statements, in effect putting words in their mouths) - which is an issue with devotees who have censored themselves and checked their tongues at the door for years, fearful of the resulting ramifications. Hugs for you all (((((*))))))))
Jai Guru
sevaki

sackcloth
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(12/18/01 12:01 pm)
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Dear sevaki
I will gladly give you all the breaks you want. I'm on permanent break myself :-)

However, will YOU give YOURSELF a break too? Sometimes when we're being hard on ourselves we think everyone else is being hard on us too.

I'll gladly ignore Beg's put-down comments, and suggest you do the same. He has a need to chop off everyone's head to make himself look taller. An inferiority complex? Hmmm...

Sevaki, you come from a Catholic background like me. That'll get us burnt at the stake on this board. There is such hatred of Catholics in America, in SRF, and on this board in particular. While I am no longer Catholic (I left that church when I found SRF) and I won't ever be going back, I don't harbor the deep resentment and hatred that so many Catholics (and non-Catholics) seem to have against them.

There is also much resentment against SRF here, understandably, since most of the posters here are either ex-SRFers or still members but still carrying much emotional baggage around. As a result, they tend to blow things way out of proportion. Overcompensation? Hmmm, I'm not the psychobabblist here, that's Beg's job.

Seems to me if they're so resentful of SRF, why not just move on to something else and forget about SRF. Me, I have my share of gripes against SRF, but basically the wealth of teachings and yoga techniques that Yogananda brought us more than makes up for the rest.

The bottom line is, all the ex-monastics here are where they belong, outside the SRF ashrams. Frankly most sound like a bunch of spoiled crybabies. Yes, some of their complaints are legitimate, but my goodness, I've never seen such spoilt brats in my life! Most of them sound like rich kids from Encino and Beverly Hills who thought the ashram was going to be another tennis camp for rich movie producer's kids.

Since I said I've never felt any pro-ashram bias in my dealings with SRF, I've already been labeled as having wishful thinking and Catholic undertones. Get a life, psychobabblists, resentful brats! Nobody at SRF has ever told me the ashram is for the "winning members" or the elites. Methinks some of these people didn't leave the ashram, they got kicked out! And with good reason!

Anyway sevaki, I've really enjoyed reading your posts. They are such a breath of fresh air, free of the overwrought, pseudo-psychological crap that some of the others burden their posts with. You sound genuine, like you write from the heart. I really enjoy that.

Hugs to you too.

{{{{{{{{{sevaki}}}}}}}}}

AumBoy
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(12/18/01 2:02 pm)
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To Sevaki
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DEVOTEES never give themselves a break

I agree with this. Aside from low self-esteem and other problems, it is an indication of, I feel, not loving oneself where one is. One of the commandments (a term I detest) is to "Love thy neighbor as thyself" or something to that effect. One has to love oneself, and accept oneself, before others. This is a process of maturing. Even reverence for God and Guru: one needs to have self-respect for oneself first. And then respect for others and reverence follows.

The answer Bro. Atmananda gave, I feel, is from his own perspective. He gave the correct answer. It may not have been correct for you or for the person asking, but he probably did his best. I remember an incident at Convocation several years ago (the last time I went) during one of the talks. The Brother speaking mentioned something in the lessons and his interpretation of it. My mind instantly said, "He's absolutely wrong." His interpretation, that is. That was one indication, to me, that monastics don't have all the answers or even the correct answers.

The other thing that occurred to me: sometimes things happen to us that we do not understand. But through them we may be able to help others, to be more loving, more kind, more patient, more understanding. That's my 2 cents. :)

Raja Begum
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(12/18/01 8:17 pm)
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To sackcloth
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"As a result, they tend to blow things way out of proportion. Overcompensation? Hmmm, I'm not the psychobabblist here, that's Beg's job."



Whoa! Down boy!! First off, what the heck does that word mean? I've looked it up in four dictionaries and couldn't find it.

You're the first to go public accurately stating that I'm a giant windbag. But let's keep it a secret between you and I, shall we? So far I've got the rest of them fooled into thinking I actually have a point of view.

Speaking of which... What's yours? Doubtful you've come here as the self-appointed St. Paul of the Walrus board just to vanquish the whiners and complainers. Do you recall what happened to the poor fellow on the road to Damascus?

Your pain led your here, didn't it. But you're edgier than a woodsaw and you refuse to lay it on the line. Instead you hide it behind a massive amount of projection and belittling of others. I know now what you hate and what you like, but I know absolutely nothing about what brought you here and what you want to tell us about yourself.

I've presented many coherent arguements to you. And instead of invalidating my ideas by fighting a fair game of logic, you resort to labeling and try to disqualify my legitimate sources through ridicule. In short, you're being dismissive.

I'm not going to be agreeing with you on every point just to make a friend. I hope you can appreciate that I can consider you a friend even if you rip my ideas to shreds. In fact, I'd be impressed. But you and I are slipping down the slope of our guru's grace if we assasinate each others' characters. Expose the weakness in my logic? Yes. Dismantle my opinions? Fair game. But do it, not with unsubstantiated opinion, but with a rock solid rationale.

If I yell or snort "two plus two equals four" and you call me a blibbering loudmouth, you are only condemning the method in which the facts have been delivered; you have not invalidated the fact itself.

This is my halfway point where I'll be glad to meet you. I leave it up to you to decide if its worth it.

To get the ball rolling (permission asked in advance) I want you to comment on the following three points which you ignored the last time I brought them up....



#1 You wrote the following....

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"But if you look at the ashrams in India, indeed if you look at the monastic orders of ANY religion, they are not democracies. They are not country clubs, or spas or resorts, they are autocracies, dictatorships."


My response was....

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First off, you are committing the fallacy of appeal to tradition. Just because ALL those religions have done it in the past doesn't make it valid for now. ALL of those religious orders you refer to flowered in the swamps of the Kali Yuga. The human heart in the Kali Yuga, according to Sri Yukteswar, was always in a state of misconception and darkness -- "In this state man is called Sudra, or belonging to the servant class, because his natural duty then is to serve the higher class people in order to secure their company and thereby prepare his heart to attain a higher stage." (The Holy Science 57-58 )

We can deduce from SY's comment that, in the Kali Yuga, autocracies and dictatorships would have the perfect environment to flourish whether in a monastic community or in the political / social sphere because people looked up to authority figures for guidance -- often rather indiscriminately. Thus the cult of obedience was born -- the slave / master ethos.

But then Sri Yukteswar continues that, in the current Dwapa Yuga, man reaches the state of Sandhisthala ("the place between the higher and the lower";) . Bathed in this new vibration, men "need help from one another; hence mutual love, the principal necessity for gaining salvation , appears in his heart." Such a man "affectionately keeps company with those who destroy troubles, clear doubts, and afford peace to him, and hence avoids whatever produces the contrary result..."






#2 You wrote the following....

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With regards to all the stuff posted here and elsewhere on the board from that book about the Guardians and the personality types etc., IMHO you're falling into a delusion trap (I thought the whole point of PY's teachings was to get away from delusion, not get more and more into it). You're mixing 20th century American psychobabble junk with PY's thousands-year old teachings on Yoga and Vedanta.



I responded with the following quotes of our guru.....

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"Read Shakespeare and other classics, and suitable portions from practical books on such subjects as chemistry, physics, physiology, history of Oriental and Western philosophy, comparative religion, ethics, and psychology."

"We should study human and animal personalities of various types, and people of different nations, in order to compare their various traits and then adopt in our own lives what is valuable, good, and lovable, and discard what is harmful, evil, and unlovable."

"If one studies the personality characteristics of the different animals, he will find their various traits reproduced in different human beings."





#3 And finally, you keep harping on the Keirsey research, continuously placing it in the same minor league with the current new-age pop psychology. I took quite a lot of time on your behalf to make a generative chronology of Kiersey's sources -- which include Plato, Aristotle, the Vedas. The man himself has been researching the field of human temperament since 1956 --- a span of time longer than Daya Mata's SRF presidency. For your convenience, I've reprinted the passage below. I would like you to be specific about the factors you think invalidate Kiersey's research. Furthermore, since you are clearly in the wrong about him being a pop psychologist, explain to me why you continue to label him thusly....


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David Keirsey's landmark book was published in 1978 under the title"Please Understand Me." The second edition "Please Understand Me II" -- which I liberally quote from -- was published in 1998. Just five years out of graduate school, Keirsey first encountered the work of Isabel Myers when he took the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) in 1956. The portrait he received -- that he was an INTP "Rational" -- was a profound revelation to him. For the next 45 years, Kiersey has devoted his life to the study of personality and temperament.

About the MBTI I've lifted the following description from another website (www.bloomfield.edu/orr/mbti.html).....

"The MBTI was developed by Isabel Myers and Catherine Briggs. Their work was based on Carl Jung's theory of Psychological Types.  Having been influenced by World War II, they hoped to develop an inventory that would lead to greater understanding among people -- an effort to lead to a world harmony. "

Isabel Myers was not a fly-by-night 20th century psychobabblist. She was a profound thinker with a pragmatic aim. Her genius was making Jung's cumbersome Theory of Psychological Types practical and available to the scientist and layman alike.

Other predecessors of Myers were Adickes, Kretschmer, Spranger, and Fromm. Quoting Kiersey, these early pioneers of psychology "saw the usefulness of ancient belief that came primarily from the early Greeks and Romans. It was the Roman physician Galen who, developing the ideas of Hippocrates, proposed (around 190 A.D.) that it is neither the stars nor the gods that determine what we want and what we do; rather, it is the balance of our bodily fluids, the four 'humors,' as they were called ....We might smile at this early view of human psychology, but at the same time we must acknowledge it to be a major departure from what had gone before. Our predispositions , said Galen, come in four styles, and from within and not from without."

Kiersey then traces the history of temperament and types further back to Plato, an "Idealist" who predates the Catholic church by more than 4 centuries: "Nearly six hundred years before Galen, Plato had written in 'The Republic' of four kinds of character which clearly corresponded with the four temperaments attributed to Hippocrates. Plato was more interested in the individual's contribution to the social order then in underlying temperament, and so he named the Sanguine temperament the 'iconic' (artisan) character, endowed with artistic sense, and playing an art-making role in society. He named the Melancholic temperament the 'pistic' (guardian) character, endowed with common sense, and playing a caretaking role in society. He named the Choleric temperament the 'noetic' (idealist) character, endowed with intuitive sensibility, and playing a moral role in society. And he named the Phlegmatic temperament the 'dianoetic' (rational0 character, endowd with reasoning sensibility, and playing the role of logical investigator in society."

"A generation later, Aristotle [a "Rational"] defined character in terms of happiness, and not, as his mentor Plato had done, in terms of virture. Aristotle argued that there are four sources of happiness: 'The mass of men,' he said, 'find happiness either in 'sensual pleasure' ("hedone";) or in 'acquiring assets' ("propraietari";) , while some few find happiness either in exercising their 'moral virtue' ("ethikos";) or in a life of 'logical investigation' ("dialogike";) ."

Western Civilization owes a significant debt to Vedic lore on the subject of personality types. Starting with Laws of Manu and and the Vedas and culminating with the Upanishads in India. and running a parallel course through the annals of ancient Chinese philosophy, is a schema of a world based on 4 (and sometimes 5) elemental types. The introduction of Vedic concepts to Greek culture is generally credited to a contemporary of Plato named Empedocles of Acragas whose memorable claim was that there are four elements in the universe which account for all its variety.


Raja Begum
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(12/18/01 8:25 pm)
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Attn Walrus
Attn readers...ignore the winking emoticon ") which is a format error.

If Walrus wants to fix them, permission granted.

fromLA
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(12/18/01 8:34 pm)
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Brother A
I know Brother A well, and I can state categorically that he did not intend the exclusive interpretation that could be applied to his statement. He really meant that all of us are in God and Master's hands and are guided to the best place for us.

Should Free
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(12/20/01 3:01 am)
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Brother A and more
He may have meant that. However, his statement was confusing, and I very much doubt that it created healing and peace in the heart of the devotee asking the question. In therapy, some times the therapist needs to communicate a certain idea to the client; if he/she chooses the right words he/she may heal. The same idea but with the wrong words will create confusion AND EVEN HURT.

This is why the language in the lessons can be so damaging. The ideas they communicate are often quite good. The way they are communicated are far from healing -- they are damaging. To know the art and science of communication is crucial if you want to be a teacher -- as a speaker or as a writer. But that is not enough; you also need to have a certain gift called “empathy.” Does monk A has that gift? Is this the same monk that has been called in this board "the champion of empathy?"

Now, if he doesn't have empathy, he is not to blame. It is a gift, and it is not his fault to have it not. However, here is where the Myers-Briggs comes handy. Had he taken the Myers-Briggs on time, now he would be an architect (INTP) (for example) and not a teacher (ENFJ).

We all have been victims at one time or another of living an unauthentic life. We all know how painful it can become. No authenticity no happiness! So, here is where the Myers-Briggs comes handy again. Do we want to be happy? Let us live an authentic life. Do you want to live an authentic life? Know thyself -- not only thySelf -- as SRF proposes; to ignore the ego and attempting to know directly the higher Self. That doesn’t work -- at least not in the world. So let us be humble and begin by knowing our "self." And, in regard to this, nothing comes even close to the practicality and simplicity of the Myers-Briggs. Otherwise, you will have to become a psychologist and that takes nine years in college!

I read the book Raja Begum often quotes "Please Understand Me, Second Edition" and he is absolutely right -- it is superb, a classic, something absolutely unique, extraordinary! Possibly the best book on psychology written in the last 50 years. And, I'm a voracious reader.

So, dear sackcloth, we like you here and thanks for participating, and for challenging us. But, to be honest with you, your arguments were not enough. You lost the battle in my opinion. Raja Begum played fair; with perfect logic he destroyed your arguments one by one. You resorted to twisted tactics offending and attacking him personally. But his arguments stand intact. Great Job RB! Peace to you dear friend Sackcloth -- you battled courageously. Congratulations for your courage.

Should Free

Notice the Noticer
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(6/23/03 10:00 pm)
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Re: Where we're "put"
Raja, your question itself deserves the million dollar prize:

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So why do we have a monastic guru leading a progressive country of basically householders? Where's the logic in that? How does that provide us with a role model we can relate to?

I was glad to see this comment because I've just realized an inconsistency I wanted to bring up. The ministers used to tell us we're not "supposed" to go off to India or the woods to do sadhana. We're in the western world, and are supposed to live this busy lifestyle.

This claim used to really bug me. How do they know what we're supposed to do? That is way too arrogant and broad a statement. Some people might be much better off in India or riding the rails or whatever.

Then, FINALLY, a week or so ago, I thought: how contradictory to that statement is the fact that the very westerners who are saying it not only became monks, but in an eastern order?

One of the things I noticed as a monastic was that most of the others spent much of their energy creating reasons why they were doing the right thing. Endless discussions about "what it MEANS to be a nun," "how nuns should act," etc., were a dead giveaway that they were afraid it didn't mean anything, really. And you know what, it doesn't.

The ego does its thing. It seems to have a life of its own and that's what it's all about; preserving the lie that it does have some reality. How fruitless is it to expect, we egos, that we can kill off the ego. How silly to assign the ego, an illusion, such importance that it supposedly has the power to keep us from God. How misleading to think that becoming an automaton with no desires (like THAT's gonna happen) is spiritual. What it is, is unhealthy repression and avoidance of experience.

Why are there entities capable of reflective awareness if their (our) purpose is not to experience the miraculously diverse spectrum of life we're "put" into? Note, this is not an admonition to work hard and play hard (unless that's natural to your character). It's a suggestion to release the shackles of believing that we are our personalities and therefore, in order to be our true Selves, must transform those personalities into some sort of perfection by pretending we don't embody normal human characteristics.

I have encountered some personalities that have exceptionally admirable qualities. But even these PERSONALITIES come nowhere near the the perfection of unity consciousness. Nor do the people whose vehicles are imbued with unity consciousness act all goody-twoshoes. Far from it.

This householder/monastic differentiation is just bullshit. A desperate attempt by those who have given up their freedoms to assure themselves that they haven't made the terrible mistake they begin to suspect when they see that monasticism isn't proving to be even a small improvement over their former lot in life. That's why I left; I thought, "Gee, this existence is nothing special, AND I'm allowing neurotic imbeciles to make all my decisions for me." The one reason I'm glad I joined in the first place (well, besides the fact that I finally learned to cook) is that now I won't spend the rest of my life wondering whether it was a missed opportunity. I feel very fortunate that my eyes :eek (yikes!) were opened.

Edited by: Notice the Noticer at: 6/23/03 10:11 pm
soulcircle
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(6/23/03 10:30 pm)
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Hi Notice the Noticer
Guests, Notice the Noticer and All,

Notice the Noticer,

You are a great and welcome addition on this board, in "this community."
And the fun begins with your ID, Notice the Noticer.

In reading all of this board, all 8,000 plus posts and many of the links, I noticed Raja Begum, from the get go, not always reading them all word for word.

But now I do!

And I see you do, too!!

I am still absorbing them, yet even now you are both absorbing them and entering into the conversation and understanding of these topics, as he, in at least one of them, so longingly, expressed a desire for. True discourse.

Thank You Partner,

Dave heypoet@aol.com

chrisparis
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(6/24/03 10:43 am)
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Re: A Question Again...
O.K., sorry to be tiresome about this, but ...
This weekend I got to be with a discussion group with people who have been meditators and spiritual seekers (not in kriya, though) some of them since the early 1940's. I asked them the following question, which I am now asking YOU (everybody who reads this board):

According to the description given in Kriyanada's "The Path" the menage at Mt. Washington was arranged like this: the monks lived in the basement. The main floor was a common area with offices, meeting room, etc. PY and the nuns lived on the top floor. Does this strike anybody as...interesting?

The response was a somewhat hearty laugh. Later, my best friend said "anybody who could look at that set-up and NOT know what was going on is in denial..."

I present the question to you all, along with this one: WHO was prescribing celibacy as a prerequisite for spiritual developement, and how seriously can we take him?

soulcircle
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(6/24/03 11:42 am)
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chrisparis
I hope everyone logs in on this one, and does it as free of denial as possible

I will tell an analogy as unfocused as it may be, and as projection free as possible
......as I come later to the end
logging in to say that Mekunda [Paramahansa Yogananda] and I both have a great love of sexual experience and its blends with other aspects of life, and that Paramhansa Yogananda and I are also as special a' folks as you'll ever meet

guilt free as possible

now to me and Ammachi www.amritapuri.org
~~~~~~~~~~

when I am in public I put my best foot forward
this practice which is somewhat universal
... among other things, does two things

Ammachi puts the same foot forward as did Paramhansa Yogananda

1) the public sometimes finds this pleasant, some find it exceedingly pleasant, you with me?

2) it is a lie, so the three of us are described in The People of the Lie, by Gregory Scott Peck

Now with me first, then Ammachi, then Paramhansa Yogananda....

~~~~~~~~~~~
i didn't quite finish up the part about me and Ammachi...
in over one hundred visits with Ammachi, I will probably be on an hour long cable show, briefly about her
my visits with Amma, most of them with Jason Becker, he will probably be on at length on the upcoming Amma hour, with my seated at the side of his wheelchair www.jasonbecker.com.....

I have seen in these 100 plus visits in her three weeks in Northern Calif.
....my visits in her hall, visits averaging up to eight hours on average
....I have seen lies and I have seen lives blessed with love

a woman, Violeta, in her fifties: her mother died when she was born.....
her first hug, she felt her mother with her fo the first time ever, the guilt lifted

...the same day as I was shuttling her to her hotel, she left before the program ended, I was doing service driving, I told her of the beauty of Amma and Jason together at the end of basically every morning program in CA....
Violeta, the lady, asked me to turn the van around and return, so she could witness this... we turned around

when she did witness Jason and Amma those few minutes, she said, "that is pure love."

on the flip side, as borg 108 has pointed out see menu item non-srf, what is it groups?....non-srf traditons??
see Amma Inc.
...one the flip side, Amma's charities are a fraud and deceit

a couple evenings ago Amma had the business director of her somewhat [in]famous AIMS Hospital at her side speaking at great length. It was bulls...... and lies, told to the most adoring and believing 1,000 plus people

the next four programs I had no interest in seeing her
..I wouldn't miss anything if I never saw her or SRF again
~~~~~~~~

now, me
you All...Guests,chrisparis and All would never miss anything if you never had contact with me again

I equal any fraud and deceit that Amma exhibits, for real

.. and especially to you on this board who feel closest to me,
wait til One Taste or borg 108 writes about soulcirce, Inc. or "here's the stoy about soulcircle," married and "loyal" for 27 years, stopping with One Taste in a super market and buying condoms, hmmmmmmmmmmm

so without projectng on Amma or Yogananda

the foot put forward in public is beautiful and and full of poetic highs and sharing

the other foot is fraud deceit promiscuous, Inc.

~~~~~~~~~~~

Goddess's best foot which she puts forward is kindness, compassion and bliss and love

God's other foot is the Devil

Ammachi and Yogananda put forward their best foot,
... the foot of an Avatar
their other foot resembles Goddess' Devil

My best foot is kind listening, and sharing friendship....
...and welcome

My other foot is Lie

denial free circle

``````just one unfocused opinion that Yogananda's penis was used for more than number one

~~~~~~ and that God has more than a healthy/wayward penis, in the reaity of the Devil

and that guilt that lands infrequently on Goddess, doesn't need to land any more frequently in our consciousnesses

chrisparis
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(6/24/03 12:19 pm)
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Re: chrisparis
OK, I see it. Never mind...

Edited by: chrisparis at: 6/24/03 1:47 pm
ATrueBeliever
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(6/25/03 4:26 pm)
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Yogananda and nuns - Food for thought
This past Sunday (6-22-03) at the Lake Shrine anniversary, Sister Parvati was telling stories.

1. Back in the 30's the pool at Encinitas was filled with water and Yogananda would tell the nuns to get their suits on and they would all go swimming.
2. One story was told about a woman that was staying at Mt. Washington. At 1am the woman was told that Yogananda wanted to see her. She stated that she had just awakened, was not dressed, and that she would see him in the morning. The audience gasped at the fact the woman chose to defer the meeting and Parvati noted that due to this incident, she knew this woman would not last.
3. She also stated that once the nuns were called one by one into a room where yogananda was, that as one entered - the door would be shut. The others on the outside could hear laughter coming from inside. This process continued with nun after nun entering and each one laughing upon entrance. She then stated that while inside the room, she noticed one woman was not laughing. Rather this individual looked critical of the process and thought it was "in bad taste" - SHE DID NOT STATE WHAT THE ACTIVITY WAS! She also stated that she knew that this woman would not last.
4. She stated that she entered the ashram at age 13 !!

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